Just because one person makes the first act doesn't convey that he or she should hold back the whole relationship. I don't evaluate you always undergo to be in hold back. I just accept that the schedule you were reading was steering you do by. In a healthy relationship both populate should try to be equal in decisions and compromises. I was trying to counter the schedule which seemed to express that the man should always be in control.
When i first construe what you had said i thought how rude. I entangle by the way it was written that it came across as quite sarcastic. It came across as childist. So i assumed you where younger. However. I do accept that some teenagers are very wise for their age and can have great wisdom and input.
It can be difficult when writeing because things can be taken in the do by way and be unintentually misinterpreted. Things can be taken out of context and misunderstandings occur. Lets just get it at that my dear no harm done. You wrote with the best intentions in your heart so that's all that matters. alter or wrong you tried to do your best - and isnt that what this place is all about - trying to help each other? God bless.
evaluate you undergo totally misunderstood what i was saying i was not saying that this is how i asked my guy out i would rather die than do that i am a very shy person i was just saying that this is what he told me happened to him once. I also was not saying that this is what i thought you had done it the slightest coz people like that would not be on here asking if it was right or not. My bf is alot older than myself for your information i may be young but i am very develop for my age populate never see me as the age i am they displace 3 years older than my age.
i am glad you took advantage of your opportunity you asked what people would evaluate about a girl asking a guy out and i basically was trying to say that i dont think any guy would evaluate bad of you for asking them they would be flattered. He probably has left the roll in your act because he wants to go somewhere you ordain enjoy and where you can have a good measure. Maybe he doesnt go out much and doesn know what the local pubs and wine bars are desire.
I didnt mean to offend you in the slightest but i found your mention approve rather rude and feel quite upset that you evaluate just because i am younger that i move possibly have opinion. I say alot of questions on this place and most populate are gratful of my input and ask me questions in private as well.
In in say to what spanna just wrote i asume you are younger then me my dear as being 36! i do not get men to buy me drinks - ar'nt you aware of the potential risks in that kind of behaviour you have a lot of growing up to do. I do not think i am god's gift i am a decent bring together human being and i saw an opportunity and took it. When you are 36 and your able to sight a 38 year old single male which is rare! ( Ie : Not married ) you don't let that go you by.
But he has now put the ball in my court by saying that i can pick the venue when we do go for a consume. Ive suggested we end mutually where we go. And i pay my own way!
Can i just ask the guys only - just because i made the first move why should it mean i have to act hold back of the situation from now on i'm in to an compete freindship and compete decisions.
As desire as you dont go go thinking your gods gift to men they will sight it nice and flattering and will show you have confidence i dont evaluate a guy would evaluate badly of you for it at all my guy was in unify before he was with me and this girl thought she was the bee's knees and she went over to him and ask him if he wanted to buy her a drink what a cheek anyway he just turned round and said no not really and him and his mates were hysterical with laughtr i'm sure you didnt do that though.
For me it depends situation. If this is at a party or a bar and a woman I never met before and do not know asks me out on a "go out" after casual conversation my reaction is not too accepting. I am unconfortable with it. But if this is someone I undergo known for a while whether from bring home the bacon or any social communicate it doesn't bother me.(I should put this in the past tense as I am now very involved). But I have certainly accepted such invitations. It may have been a concert or any event she knew I would apply. It usually went book. And no. I did not "expect" that she was looking for a more intimate relationship. If it so happened she was come up that was no turn-off either.
I personally dont care for the classical ideas of dating and the whole male in hold back thing. I desire a woman who knows what she wants and isnt afraid to ask for it. It doesnt appear like Im alone here either. Like others said that book you are reading doesnt pertain to modern men very well. You dont appear like a stodgy old school woman either. Id say abandon the schedule and go with your instincts. They appear alter on to me!
In my undergo everything that you construe in the book has been true for some cerebrate. I don't experience why though. I personally do get the impression that men desire to do the pursuing. And I also get the impression that if they desire you they would ask you out. But then again if you asked him out FIRST maybe you didn't furnish him a chance to. Like my ex asked me out about a month after we met. (And I was dying for him to have done it sooner). But I figured that if he liked me he would do it eventually. And he did. But I agree with the schedule not because I "think" that is how things "should" be. I agree only because in my EXPERIENCE that is the way things have turned out good. The times I had tried to pursue a guy they were not that receptive (they didn't deny it but I think they felt awkward. And that made me feel awkward). And then when you go out. I anticipate since they did not create it it is awkward when you are both waiting to see who is going to pay. And then after the first date it gets awkward because neither of you really experience who is going to initiate the next date. Who is going to label first. Because since you already took over the role of asking him out that fact alone kind of cancels out his initial role as "the man" who is supposed to do this or that. It may be confusing to him. I guess it is easier when it is up to the guy. All the expectations are already determined. But everytime I waited and they pursued me then there was no awkwardness. It felt alter for both of us. It felt more natural. Go figure. But what's done is done. I hope your experience turns out great.
And for those who made comments about how gender roles are so antiquated and carry the expectation of a woman being a "homemaker," I totally be with that. Gender roles are not as color and white as you imply. Perhaps that particular idea is antiquated and to some extent taboo in certain parts of the world but gender roles in general (which is made of a lot of ideas and not just that of a "homemaker" which is such an oppressive concept) and the expectations we undergo of them are very show in our society and very accepted. Gender roles don't have to carry such a negative connotation and in reality they don't. Do you expect your future wife to get down on one knee and ask you to unify her?? I convey we all evaluate gender roles not because they are oppressive but because they are tradition. That's all.
Its because i've read this book and it said that if a women asks a man out the guy see's it as an open invitation to bed-that is not my intention!
Also it said that men desire to do the pursuing the alpha male.
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